Waking again at 2 AM, my body reacting to tiny issues as if its life were threatened when dark at night and alone. Though Samuel lay near it did not matter, my internal world felt cold, unwelcoming, and unsafe from worried thoughts. Badness permeated setting off alert rockets requiring medication if any more sleep were to come.
Two nights of lack of sleep is two too many. Yet this is my life. Today after a battled night there is still a feeling of gratefulness even as tears fall.
My ability to detect scents gets stronger. Wellness from Covid feels almost 100% though it took over a month. Now back to the usual challenges- lack of sleep.
There’s no gratefulness for that, only tears. Tears for no sleep. Tears for needing medication. Tears that why it happens stems from cruel hands in childhood taking whatever sexual pleasures could be ravaged from a child who loved and trusted the hands before they came upon her.
In the dark, laying on the couch, memories of my life… the strong, quiet soul that prevailed during all those terrifying times through decades later.
The years of the façade forced upon me by mom and the rest, to act as if not attacked at will by those that were supposed to love and protect me.
That damaged many systems; neural, parts of the brain rearranged to be constantly alert to threats no longer there, the lymphatic system which diminished in capacity causing glands to always be just a bit swollen, the permanently compromised immune system due to a lifetime of swallowing severe trauma because the wish of others to this day is not to speak of what they have done- the doers and the co-conspirators who kept quiet out of their own embarrassment while keeping ties to the enemies all along, as if to say- you don’t matter.
Had these perpetrators done to your daughters what they did to me, would you be so friendly?
What could be healed by my own persistence has been conquered as much as it possibly could be, though damage can never be fully repaired. It is still difficult to advocate for myself. I still take in blame for much that is not mine, and relationships dwindle to a select few who are known and loved. Trust impedes others.
There is no origin family, they stay away fearful of the strength in this new woman who will no longer stay silent. Friends made are not healthy friends, only chosen to replicate what was known from mom and the others- love with unhealthy toxic conditions, love laced with criticism, manipulation and control masquerading as kindness, all that severely affecting my ability to speak up and erect boundaries.
This new woman walks alone among the pines finding peace all on my own.