LIMITATIONS due to a Fractured Brain

Delete all the posts about Stevie which are so negative? Never, in spite of all that writing getting to the real issue. These thoughts invade while trying to sleep. Is this going to be another bad night? And that worry or fear makes it happen, my mind leaping off into drowning waters.

As the weight disappears anxiety consumes me. Sarah, a women on the View, a television show where the women are compassionate, bright, and very up on the latest events, says anxiety sneaks up on you. Oddly, athletes competing in the Olympics have boldly announced the very same thing.

Anxiety. Yes, of course. It has bitten me hard, feeling like a failure in every way. Wanting to be wise, grounded, just a font of peace and wisdom… I am not. Feeling so lost yet again. All the past revisiting in waves, slapping me in the face; the losses, fears, shortcomings, mistakes, oh so many mistakes.

Nothing about achievements, remember those? Remember the work of loving yourself? All those reasons of not visiting Stevie, of how he is manipulating me, asking for work out of my husband when he surely has plenty of money to hire it out. Yet it has nothing to do with that. Saying ‘no’ to him out of my own needs of safety, for traveling is such a challenge, and I’ve had my short fill of it this summer already, has brought on a tremendous amount of guilt.

Laying there long after Samuel’s regular breathing began, the hours ticked by and by 1 or 2 sleep came without a sleep aid. No way can dependence on that occur. And this morning in slippers and bathrobe with a long raincoat over it, padding out to mailbox, a note to Stevie was put in the box.

Please forgive my shortcomings, all the cancellations, and inability to visit you at both your homes. I love you more than might know and feel I failed you. Anxiety is a daily visitor and though I want to be there for you, I can hardly be there for myself.

The truth finally revealed, not just to him, but mostly to myself. I am not going because I can’t. I want to but can’t. I cannot even settle myself here in my own home where I feel the safest.

These limitations are mostly accepted except when others need me and I cannot be there for them. That is when it hurts the most.

2 thoughts on “LIMITATIONS due to a Fractured Brain

  1. I’m so sorry about your anxiety! It’s a lot to suffer with.

    You haven’t mentioned your therapist in a very long time. Are you not working with him anymore? Is anyone helping you with all that anxiety? It’s a ton to process…

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    1. Anxiety has been a way of life since age 8, so it’s nothing new, just ups and downs.
      That therapist, also a Doctor of psychiatry, was Raymond. I wrote about him, 3 chapters I think! I might still be seeing him if he hadn’t moved to Arkansas. That grief took about two years to heal believing I couldn’t go on without him. A very dark tunnel. But I did! Graduated from nursing school and worked as an RN for several years till hitting a wall and seeing one of the list Raymond left with me, the cell phone therapist. Stuck with him even longer (6 years) till the phone interruptions became so severe even I couldn’t put up it any longer.

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