Monsters Don’t Die

Monsters don’t die, they live in my neurons ready to attack. A sudden sound, even Samuel entering a room without hearing the approaching footsteps makes my adrenaline shoot clanging the warning sirens. In the quiet alone, the vast stillness in the house waiting…

Monsters don’t die, they live on. Chet’s kidnapping of my freedom, a toy, a thing, a little captive now grown still trying to untangle the chains of childhood. Shame kept me silent, and he knew it. Though living in a house with seven brothers and a mother, his attacks were as if thousands miles away trapped in a hut with only his disgusting manipulating force.

I want to kill him, though he is already dead. No one to save me, no one would help me. Hostages grow close to their captors. His death did not undo that. They are never gone, the ones who attacked me. They lie waiting to destroy, even as worms eat their rotted flesh in the dirt they are buried in.These are the feelings denied all my life because my mother insisted on niceness— sugar without spice. 

They are never gone. The most violent attack by Dan remains repressed, inside deeply subconscious, yet there in all its horror. Raymond once said, “So what if you don’t remember?”

So what? What is that if it came up all the symptoms of PTSD would magically disappear. And of course that isn’t true. The cure comes in kindness towards self, so hard for a personality shaped by believing my needs don’t matter or even exist. A fake life forced with the silence, the authentic one still rising. 

When a child is sexually attacked by loved ones, the ones that know, and the ones who committed the crimes do not want the child to talk. No one provides attention or care, not even medical care. The shame that one of their own has done this means sacrifice the child, controlled by more manipulations and implied threats of abandonment through shunning. The life meant to be gone.  

I learned what happened didn’t, like painting white over black. Life was dazed by trauma and terror, and still I lived with the monsters who attacked in the night. I was to love them. Love was never to safely come again, not for adults. Rare moments occur with children who have not yet learned deceitfulness, and all pets. Pretending became my reality. 

Progress is made in recognizing my needs with compassion, though numbing also continues  without knowing why. 

 

4 thoughts on “Monsters Don’t Die

  1. “When a child is sexually attacked by loved ones, the ones that know, and the ones who committed the crimes do not want the child to talk.” So very true in too many cases. I was sworn to secrecy. Once my parents died, my need to keep quiet slowly disappeared as my shame and self blame was healed. My perpetrator doesn’t understand my need to be free of him. He wonders why I haven’t gotten over it by now. What he doesn’t realize is I’m over him. This is beyond his comprehension.

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    1. It’s more convenient for him if you ‘just get over it.’ Convenient and easier than offering a sincere request for forgiveness.
      Then, whether receiving forgiveness or not, living a life worthy of redemption. There is a way out for those who commit these crimes in their youth. It takes work, work just as hard as mine.

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      1. I should add that I too no longer felt the need to remain mute after my mom died. That is when the book erupted. Week after week, chapter by chapter the sag of my shoulders lifted and I began to know my own soul.

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