Little Things

Waking to anxiety and fear is the norm. Go back to sleep. Everything is alright, you are alright, and the calming process needed daily begins. This is especially true during the darker months which have dug in quite deeply, with a 6 pound weight gain to prove it. Where did that come from?

Doing things like eating unconsciously to provide comfort began at age 8 to cope with upheaval when Danny took safety away forever. But that scares me even more, to eat unwisely not providing my body with kindness.

So like roping runaway wild horses, the reining in begins again. Show yourself kindness and respect. When those thoughts sink in, the compulsion to eat away uncomfortable feelings disappears. My soul still starves for the nourishment of self-love.

My mother’s hand upon my fevered forehead. The special times when her love was felt because most of the time my hatred, rage and inability to trust walled it away. It is true with Samuel, my kids, and friends. Love is there, but it is not trusted.

And it is not there for myself, except for glimmers now and then. As the depth of love for myself opens so does love for others, both coming in and flowing out.

Love has always been there for me, around me like soft warm winds but could not enter for fear of betrayal and abandonment. A cat could only open me. And though that remains true, even a cat gets cold rejection when rejection of self occurs during periods of stress and detachment.

Come back to each moment because this is living, not some big event later on. Now is living in this moment. Nothing earthshaking, but life-changing in its quietness.

The cat purring on my lap because I’m aware of her, loving her, the vibrating from her purring matching my own, and she knows it. Taking a garage sale find and making a treasure out of it, day by day, in my own time, and with my own style. It’s OK to enjoy the little things. That is life, all the little things.

3 thoughts on “Little Things

  1. “Waking to anxiety and fear is the norm. Go back to sleep. Everything is alright, you are alright, and the calming process needed daily begins. This is especially true during the darker months which have dug in quite deeply,”……….your words struck home again. i have been having issues the past few days waking up suddenly with pure terror. it is so difficult and exhausting. it is hard to calm myself back down and realize that I am safe. I know you will understand this…….i guess it is time to treat myself with more kindness and patience.
    Thank you again for a wonderful post……….sending you love and peace through the airwaves!

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    1. Yes, more kindness and patience for you too… of course! It takes time, thought and patience to provide kindness to myself. It does not yet come naturally, (though sometimes, like breaking a bad habit by inserting a new positive one)
      Hope your sleep time loses the terror aspect quickly, and that you grow a safe place inside that soothes with a warm, protective, and encouraging internal voice.

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      1. reading your response I realize that I am kind to myself, despite all my body and mind have been through through the years……I think this is a great place for both of us to start……….being kind to someone we listen to and live with daily……ourselves!
        Thank you Grace for always being so kind!

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