7 Ways Family Members Re-victimize Sexual Abuse Survivors (as seen on Psych Central)

The haunt from the second wounding, that of origin families re-wounding the child now grown woman, never goes completely away. It comes up again and again with pain so deep the core anguishes as if freshly pierced. This is as helpful now as it was when first posted.

The Second Wound

Twenty years ago when I first disclosed to my family that I had been sexually abused by my brother as a child, I never would have guessed it would mark the beginning of a long, confusing struggle that would leave me feeling misunderstood, dismissed and even punished for choosing to address my abuse and its effects.

The response from my family did not start out this way. Initially, my mother said the words I needed to hear: she believed me, she was pained for both her children, and she was sorry. My brother acknowledged the truth and even apologized. But as I continued to heal and explore the abuse further, my family members began to push back in ways that hurt me deeply, and only became worse as the years went on.

Disclosure of sexual abuse can be the beginning of a whole second set of problems for survivors, when…

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