I was warned by a fellow blogger the very first time Adele emailed after a four day wait, explaining the delay in response by relaying that her dogs had been vomiting which is why it took her four days to respond. And this caring blogger said, “Sure, tell me all you stuff.”
Warning. Therapists need to keep their stuff to themselves, unless it is brought up specifically to help the client. And that is a big reason why I need help sometimes, because I lost myself during childhood and the inner chaos since makes it hard to stay grounded.
Don’t flaunt yourself. The last therapist after my Mother died 7 years ago was a kind soul. I saw her many months and the only thing I knew about her was that she had grown sons and was soon to retire. I didn’t need to know more as long as the interaction felt right, helpful and compassionate.
The same with Raymond, he had two grown daughters and lived on a farm where his practice was. Those that are truly there to help will not burden the client nor take up valuable time flaunting their accomplishments and talking about themselves unnecessarily.
My Mother did that all through my life. Everything was about her. I felt her feelings always and easily but did not know my own. It figures I’d pick a dysfunctional therapist. Since that is what I’ve known I’d be drawn to it.