I did not send the last letter but instead sat with it along with the helpful feedback. I made an appointment for this Friday but finally cancelled via email below. Interestingly she responded within minutes. When trying to contact her at other times it took several days to a week for her to respond.
I permanently deleted her response before reading it. Someone lacking maturity and experience would not take criticism well nor respond kindly.
It’s with sadness and regret that I cancel Friday and all hopes of working with you. Since no apology was forthcoming, one I would have readily accepted had there been one, further interaction is futile. I cannot proceed with someone who does not seem to know when their actions are wrong. Or do but offer no heartfelt apology. It’s not about boundaries, as if putting your bad behavior on me, it is wrong with any client.
More than wrong, playing with a dog when a client’s time has begun and she sits watching, waiting and wondering when her supposed therapist will be done playing with it, is bizarre and not right in any therapeutic setting. Your dog is not even a therapy dog as it didn’t even allow petting and moved away from me when I did try.
I had such high hopes. It is hard to let you go because of them. But nowhere on the planet would what you did be OK. I know this as human being with self-respect. And I know this because I too worked in the psychiatric field and did not play with my pets while assessing a client or offering therapy.
And then you boldly say to me with a smile, while your dog is in your lap, that people aren’t perfect and have bad days, inferring that your ridiculous behavior rests on me if I have a problem with it. That lack of character is a danger to me. To be taken advantage of then manipulated is unconscionable.